After Black Lotus became a reborn person, he went completely crazy

Chapter 567 This is not love, it is purely selfish

"She is someone's daughter-in-law. If she doesn't go to serve, who will? If she dares not to go, the saliva around her will drown her," Li Mingzhu replied as a matter of course.

Xia Ran said without thinking: "Of course her son will serve her. If he doesn't serve his own mother, who will? Whoever's mother is, should take care of her."

Xia Ran came back to her senses after she finished speaking. She was always used to looking at problems from the perspective of theories and concepts of later generations.

This conflicts with current values.

Sure enough, Li Mingzhu stared at Xia Ran and said, "Her husband is busy at work and has no time. If she, as a daughter-in-law, ignores her mother-in-law's illness, she will be talked about by others."

Xia Ran really wanted to say: Let others say whatever they want, it doesn’t hurt.

Besides, even if someone else says something, it should be her husband. Cheng Lu was not raised by her mother-in-law. She didn't eat a grain of rice or drink a sip of water from her family.

Of course, if Cheng Lu’s in-laws were particularly nice, that would be a different story.

But after thinking about it, he held back and asked in a different way, "How did her mother-in-law treat her before? Was she nice?"

"What the hell, she's not that great, she's from Sichuan Province and went to university here.

After graduation, he joined our company and naturally stayed in Shanghai.

Although her parents both work in government agencies and their family conditions are not bad, in reality, the conditions of her parents' family are much better than those of her husband's family.

But in the eyes of her husband's family, no matter how outstanding Cheng Lu was, she was from another place and was a country girl. She could not compare with city people like them, and they felt that Cheng Lu was marrying above her station.

Ever since she got married, her mother-in-law has been causing trouble for Cheng Lu, not to mention the other sisters-in-law and sisters-in-law, who are so difficult to deal with and always like to give her orders.

If Cheng Lu's parents weren't really supportive, wealthy and powerful, and hadn't frequently subsidized Cheng Lu, who knows what life would be like?

But her husband is okay, he treats Cheng Lu pretty well, he is considerate and understanding of Cheng Lu, he knows how hard Cheng Lu works and how hard she works, and how difficult it is. "

Xia Ran laughed at what she heard, "A nice husband? Are you sure you're not joking?

My husband is a really good guy. He will not allow his mother and other brothers and sisters to bully his wife.

Unless he also thinks so in his heart, and feels that it is a blessing and a privilege for his wife, a foreigner, to marry him, a local.

Otherwise, he shouldn’t behave like this.”

Li Mingzhu defended herself: "He can't make decisions for his mother, but he is nice to Sister Lulu."

"You are kidding me, don't be fooled by his pretended affection. It doesn't cost much money or effort, just two cheap words:

There is nothing I can do when I encounter family members like this.

I know you've been wronged. I'm sorry. Marrying me has made you suffer. I'm sorry...

You think this man is good and caring. He can see Cheng Lu's hard work and makes Cheng Lu feel that all the efforts are worth it.

Remember, if a man who truly treats his wife as a human being and is responsible encounters such a thing, the first thing he thinks about is how to improve and solve the problem, rather than always trying to smooth things over.

Every time after my wife has endured all the injustice and hardship, I will say to her lightly: Baby, you’ve worked hard to marry me, I’m sorry.

It is conceivable how cheap and disgusting this sorry is.

What he meant was, baby, saying sorry is my greatest sincerity and apology.

Next time you encounter something like this, baby, you must continue to charge forward. If you don’t do it, who will? It can’t be me, right?

You don't need to consider other people's feelings. Even for the sake of me who loves you, you have to endure and bear it.

If you tolerate my brothers and sisters, you love me. If you don’t tolerate them, you don’t love me…”

Li Mingzhu was silent for a long time before she said, "Who said that?"

She began to feel confused. It was clearly the same thing, but how could it be interpreted in two completely different ways when heard by different people?

Who should she believe?

Xia Ran smiled and said: "I said it. If you don't believe me, go home and tell this to your father and see what he says from a man's perspective.

Of course, you have to ask this when your mother is not at home, otherwise he may not tell the truth.

Moreover, we Chinese people always like to speak in a roundabout way. When listening to others, we should not just listen to the surface meaning.

You have to listen to its underlying meaning, because the underlying meaning is what the deeper truth is trying to express.

You know, if this happens once, it might be an accident, but if it happens frequently, it must be a long-planned plan.

You must keep your eyes open when looking for a partner and stay away from those men who only love with words and do not do anything. Anyone who believes them is a fool.

In your life, you have to find someone who can solve problems and take responsibility, rather than a coward who just slides away when something happens and throws all the problems to his wife.

As we mentioned before, if a man really can't handle his family, and his family members are all terrible, he can obviously choose not to get married.

Why did he get married? Wasn't it just to drag another innocent and kind woman into the quagmire of his family and shift the responsibility that belonged to him?

Successfully completed the responsibility transfer and filial piety outsourcing. This is not love, this is purely selfish.

You see, if he was not married, and his parents were sick, would he have to take leave personally to take care of them?

Once he has a wife, he can immediately outsource his filial piety and transfer his responsibilities to his wife.

He says that his wife is being filial on his behalf, and that if his wife is filial to his parents, it means that he is also filial to his parents.

When relatives, friends and neighbors mention this, they even praise him for his good taste in marrying such a beautiful and filial daughter-in-law.

You see, in this matter, it was his wife who suffered and got a good reputation, but he was the one who was the hands-off boss. "

"Xia Ran, if you put it that way, it seems to be right." Li Mingzhu still felt that something was wrong, but she just couldn't put her finger on it.

Still, I asked, "Aren't husband and wife one flesh? Is it necessary to make such a clear distinction?"

“Husband and wife are one, there is nothing wrong with this statement.

But there is a prerequisite, that is, since the new daughter-in-law entered the family, they are willing to treat her well.

Be willing to treat the new daughter-in-law as a member of the family, treat her with care, and not make things difficult for her.

Instead of this, you obviously look down on me and think I'm above your level, but you still use the name of love to force me to help you support your family.

Such a man is a bit disgusting. Such a family is a bit disturbing.

Rights and obligations have always existed side by side. I have enjoyed the benefits brought to me by this family, and there is nothing wrong with me trying to repay this family.

I am most afraid of this: when I am enjoying rights, I am not included in them, and you tell me the reason is that I am a person of a different surname and an outsider.

But when you are taking on responsibilities, you come out and say, you are a member of the family, you have to do this and that, you should do this and that, which is disgusting."